If you are attempting to determine when to end a relationship, this may be one of the toughest determinations you will have to make. Your judgment is clouded by your emotional investment in the relationship. As tough as it is to want to figure this out, sometimes knowing when to end a relationship can be the best thing for everyone.
In trying to realize when to end a relationship, great numbers of people go to extremes. Some quit on the relationship too early, before really giving it a chance. Still others remain in a toxic relationship, although they know full well that they should have ended it long ago.
The second group appear as though they just don’t know when to end a relationship. However, often times it’s more than that. Many times these people have a fear of either being by themselves or fear of the unknown of moving forward into a new life.
There are some clear circumstances when it’s definitely time to pull the plug on the relationship. For example, If you have a verbally or physically abusive partner, then it’s time to get out right now.
Other circumstances can be less clear. If you have a partner that is cheating on you, for example, this may not always mean the end. While for some, this violation of trust is too much to take, others are willing to work through it and are sometimes rewarded with stronger relationships as a result of their persistence.
If you are in a relationship where your partner’s cheating is an issue, knowing when to end a relationship may not be totally cut an dry. You first need to sit down and have an open conversation about what happened and what can be done to make sure they don’t repeat this infidelity.
Or it could be the opposite circumstance. Perhaps the one cheating in the relationship is you. Just because you have feelings for someone else and act on them physically, should you put an end to your present relationship? Possibly not. You will first need to determine how much time you spend thinking about that other person, and how tight your current relationship is. One other thing, if you have kids with your current partner, do what you can do to stick with them.
If you still love your partner and you think you have exhausted all options to make things work, look at things again. Perhaps you can still find a way to get things to work. Often times, figuring out when to end a relationship is difficult, but if you have looked objectively at all angles and still can’t make it work, then the time may have come to let go.
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